A $750,000 thriller pulling in over $150 million at the global box office with a 96% fresh rating on Rotten Tomatoes — that gap alone is newsworthy. But what really makes "Him and I" so unsettling isn't the effects or the twists. It's how the film writes "love" as a wish-fulfillment clause: the one who makes the wish gets everything, while the one wished upon loses even control of their own mind.

The wish male lead Bear makes on the mysterious artifact known as the wishing willow is simple: make Nikki love him more than anyone else in the world. It sounds like a romantic line, but in practice it turns a living person into a device that obeys without any will of her own. The film opens with the line "This is a love story, not a romance story," and it's only here that the line reveals its true bite — Bear can't tell the difference between love and romance. He thinks confessing feelings, going on dates, and being together automatically add up to love, without ever stopping to ask whether the other person still has room to choose.

What Exactly Makes Bear the Worst: Three Moments He Couldn't Face
Audiences are nearly unanimous in their verdict on Bear: trash. But his real flaw isn't cowardice or being too scared to confess his feelings — it's that every time he's forced to make a real choice, he turns and walks away. When the customer service line puts him through to Nikki and he hears her screaming in agony, he just hangs up, never once pushing further for a solution. When he goes to a strange shop looking for answers and the clerk mocks him a bit, his response is to apologize instead of pressing for the actual answer. The harshest moment comes right before he goes to find Sarah — a lucid Nikki could have actually called out for help then, her only real chance to break free from the curse, but Bear, too wounded by his own bruised ego, just turns and leaves.










